We don't go through life without trauma. Every single one of us has experienced some kind of trauma.
I don't mean that we've all been abused or have had dysfunctional childhoods or addictions or losses of loved ones. Of course these experiences can be traumatic, but so can a lot of other things that happen in our life.
If you can look back at a certain memory with very clear details and note that it made you feel 'bad' in a certain way (helpless, sad, confused, resentful, guilty etc) then it's very likely that it caused you trauma.
I can look back at my life and remember several traumatic experiences that caused so much heartbreak, guilt and sadness. A car accident that caused a back injury. A 5-day birth where midwives didn't listen to me and literally told me that I was the least important person on their 'to do' list. A friend dying by suicide. These are all clear, heartbreaking traumatic events in my life.
But I also remember experiences that may not be deemed 'traumatic' to the standard examples of trauma but they caused deep wounds that I have had to heal (and continue to heal). Being cheated on. Being teased for having hair on my legs in primary school. Being told my friend was prettier than I was when I was 13. Having a photo taken of up my skirt when I was 14 by a 17 year old boy.
Traumatic events happen to all of us and when we can look at these experiences with open eyes and truly understand the hurt they caused, we can look to heal the trauma and grow through it.
Certified Counsellor & Mental Health Coach