Self-love is feeling complete acceptance of the person I am. It's about being kind and loving to myself, no matter the circumstances. It's creating self-awareness and honouring where I'm at with the resources I have. And it's about allowing myself the space and energy to grow as an individual.
When I began this journey, my goal wasn't ever to love myself. I was in a really dark place, so that felt too hard for me, and I really didn't believe the answer would be to force me to love myself.
So instead, I focused on feeling neutral about myself. When I woke up, my only goal was to be aware of what was happening and that I wanted something different.
My journey to self-love really started with self-acceptance of where I was at, the circumstances of my life, the thoughts and beliefs I had and from there, I went deeper.
And going deeper was a lot of therapy and actually feeling everything. There was a lot of anger and crying. There was grieving and there were so many days where it just felt really heavy and hard.
When you’re in the depths of life, starting a self-love journey can feel unrealistic and if I’m entirely honest, it can absolutely be unrealistic, so instead of setting the goal of loving yourself, start with the goal of feeling neutral about yourself. The self-love can come later with more ease.
With love & support,
Shorina | Mindful Soul Collective
Counsellor & Wellbeing Coach