What does success mean to me?


We all want to be successful right? I know that if you're reading this (or any of my content) then you want success too. And that's totally fine. In fact, it's more than fine. It's normal.


But what does success mean?


Social media makes us believe success is earning 7-figures, owning a beachside mansion, driving the fast cars, being famous and traveling. Sure, this can absolutely be the definition of success to somebody but for most people, this doesn't actually align.


So what does success mean to me?


At least once a year, I sit down and ask this question. I go deep and make my own definition. Each year it changes slightly as I've grown more, my children are a little older, my goals are different, my businesses have adapted and simply put, life has changed.


I was going to do this practise privately, as I usually do, but I wanted to write about it for you as well because I think it's important for you to know that everybody's definition is going to differ. You may read mine and think that it is so far from what you consider success and again, that's totally okay and totally normal.


Success to me is:

~ spending quality time with my children

~ having a financial safety net in case of emergencies

~ allowing time for myself and my habits, routines and practises every single day

~ only doing work that fills me with love and joy

~ earning X dollars to live in my dream home and provide what my children want and need

~ having a date night at least fortnightly with my partner

~ having the time, finances and energy to continually work on myself, if that's what I want

~ being able to provide my children with love, patience, kindness and support

~ working with a team who are as passionate about my work as I am

~ writing every single week

~ helping others (in so many different forms - donating money, with my work, donating blood, offering support on social media, providing a safe place for people around me and so much more)

~ living a healthy lifestyle of nourishing foods, exercising and taking care of myself

~ having time off when I need or want too


See, to me, success is so much more about my family, work-life balance and helping others. There is one financial point to my level of success, but if I'm entirely transparent, it isn't something crazy. It's entirely possible and it's the exact amount that would let my family and I live comfortably. Sure, extra money would be amazing, but for me, what is even more amazing is watching my children play or receiving messages from women who complimented themselves for the first time in 10 years after working with me.


And to be even more transparent, I have all of the above so right now as I sit here I am successful as f*ck. I am 110% entirely successful. Every single thing that I consider a necessity to be successful is in my life, how incredible is that?


So if you don't know what success is yet, I really encourage you to ask the question. Get curious and start writing because I think you'll surprise yourself.


With love

Shorina xo

Certified Counsellor & Mental Health Coach