Key elements to a healthy mindset

I know what it’s like to wake up dreading the day ahead. To not want to get out of bed. To wish I could just stay under the blankets and hide away from the world.


Life can be overwhelming. Life can be challenging. Life can be pretty damn hard, I totally know that, but do you know what else I know?


Life can be fun. Life can be exciting. Life can be pretty damn good and it all starts with your mindset. Through this blog post, I’m going to help you understand how you can create a healthy mindset too.

When we want to strengthen our muscles, we go to the gym. When we’re feeling a little bit tight, we stretch or do yoga. We spend energy, time and money to help our physical bodies which in return keep us healthy and fit, but what do we actually do for our minds? How do we keep our minds healthy and fit?


A healthy mindset is allowing yourself to process your feelings as they come up and understanding that everything is going to be okay. A healthy mindset doesn’t hang onto negativity and it has the ability to show love, acceptance and gratitude. A healthy mindset is calm and mindful.


I’m sure we can all agree that we need a healthy mindset to create a healthy life filled with happiness and love, right? Here are some of my favourite ways of keeping a healthy mindset:

Practise gratitude

Practising gratitude regularly allows you to look at your life from an outside perspective and notice all of those small little things that we really are so lucky to have. It's so important that we look at what is right in front of us and appreciate our own lives as they are.

Forgive yourself

We have all done things in the past that we look back on and wish we had done differently. I know I certainly do, but I also know that I’m now a completely different person. I can acknowledge that I would handle the same situation differently if it were to happen right now, but I also know that it’s taken me years to become the person that I’m so proud of now. I’ve learnt so much and I found space in my heart for my own forgiveness.

Create healthy boundaries

I won’t lie, creating healthy boundaries is something that I’m constantly battling myself with. I am a people-pleaser and I do care what other people think. I don’t want to disappoint or let anybody down so when I’m asked to do something, I have always really struggled with saying no.


By creating healthy boundaries, we are protecting our own energy, time and mind. There is nothing wrong with saying no. You don’t need an excuse or a reason to say no. Give yourself permission to say no to things that don’t serve you and you don’t want to do. I promise you that the world won’t fall apart.

Take care of your body

Taking care of our physical body will also have so much benefit to our mindset. Eat colourful, nourishing foods. Drink LOTS of water. Exercise. Stretch. You only get one body, so you need to take care of it.

Practise mindfulness

Imagine mindfulness as an exercise for your mind. Practising mindfulness brings our attention to the current moment. It allows space for calmness, kindness and gratitude.

I’ve written about mindfulness quite a lot but I would highly recommend you check out this blog post on what mindfulness is.

Practise kindness

Have you ever done something completely random for somebody else just to brighten their day? I love sending flowers to my friends and family just simply because I love them (and I buy my partner donuts or chocolate milk haha!).


The amount of love and joy that we get from putting into the world from random acts of kindness is unexplainable. I’m sure you can understand why it would be beneficial to your mindset.

Find your passion

This one isn’t quite as simple as waking up and just doing it. It involves diving deep and really knowing yourself. In fact, it took me a life-changing car accident to truly find my passion – I always knew I wanted to help others. I wanted to spread love and joy. I wanted to change lives and make an impact. I just didn’t know how until I was in a car accident and was unable to work for a year. Now, here I am, living my dream life and getting to share my experiences and knowledge with you.


If you take the time to truly learn about yourself, you will find the things you like doing. You’ll find the things that set your heart on fire and burn inside of you and if you start living your life with your passion incorporated (however that may look for you), you’ll become happier than you’ve ever been before.

Have support

Honestly, I don’t think anybody can say they’ve gotten to where they are completely alone. I know that it has taken me a lot of support from family and friends but I’ve also gotten support from professionals. I have a counsellor. I have two coaches. I have an incredible GP who genuinely cares about me. I may have experienced the challenges myself, but to be the person I am right now, took a lot of support from the people around me.


Having a healthy mindset will be a continual work in progress and it may take a little while until you feel completely at peace with your mind, but the benefits are absolutely worth it. I pinky promise.


If you’d like to start diving deep into your mindset now, take a look at my free mini-course here. It will offer you an insight into your authentic self, mindset (of course!) and self-care and self-love. It’s the perfect first step.


With love

Shorina xo

Certified Counsellor & Mental Health Coach