One second, we’re 10 years old wishing we were 16 years old. Then we’re 16 years old wishing we’re 20 years old. We spend our most careless and fun years wishing we were older.
Once we hit 20 years old, we start wishing we looked like somebody else or had somebody else’s car or their house or their life.
We spend so much time wishing away our lives and for what? To feel like what we have is never quite enough? Or that we’re never enough? We're essentially just wishing our lives away.
Well, I’m here to say no.
I don’t wish I was somebody else. I don’t wish I had somebody else’s car, house or life. In fact, I am so happy with my life (and that’s after I just spent 45 minutes trying to get my toddler to sleep). Do you want to know why I’m so god damn happy with my life?
Because each morning, I choose to wake up grateful. I choose to wake up and be proud of how hard I have worked and how far I have come. I choose to wake up and love the body I’m in. I choose to love the LIFE that I’m in.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t walk around every second of the day loving my life. That’s not realistic. But if I sit here right now to reflect, there really isn’t much I would want to change (and the things I want to change are so minor that I could change them over time).
If I was only able to impact your life with one bit of advice, take care of yourself and do what you love and the rest will fall into place.
I spent so many years choosing to be in darkness. Choosing to suffer. Choosing to be unhappy. Until the day I woke up and said this is enough. Something had to change. I had to change.
I started with the basics. Choosing to eat more nourishing foods and drink more water. I moved onto the important health appointments (skin check, pap smear, booking in with a counsellor), exercising and keeping my home tidy.
Things were improving dramatically but I didn’t want to stop. I knew there was more out there for me and decided to dive deeper. I had to learn more about myself. I had to truly learn who I was and the impact I wanted to make on this planet.
I began meditating, doing yoga, practising gratitude, journaling and expanding my mind with books and podcasts.
I started to pay attention to my life. I started to pay attention to myself. That’s when I started to love my life. That’s when I stopped comparing and wishing my life away.
When I allowed the time, space and energy to dive deeper, I was able to learn exactly what I wanted to spend my life doing and how I wanted to help other people.
Once I had learnt that about myself, I was able to put a plan in place and start taking the steps needed. I was finally aligned in life and I was finally free.
I was no longer in the dark.
I was shining and guess what? You can shine too.
Certified Counsellor & Mental Health Coach