Energy givers vs. Energy takers

There are two types of people. Energy Givers and Energy Takers.


Energy givers are usually solution-focused, filled with positivity and when you leave a conversation with them, you’re inspired and feeling invigorated. People are usually more drawn to energy givers; they can brighten the room and are very genuine.


Energy takers are the opposite, they are usually the ones to be stuck in a negative mindset and you leave conversations feeling drained and overwhelmed.


You are either an energy giver or taker so it’s important to do an honest self-inventory to know which you are to ensure you’re leaving a positive impact on other people (usually your friends and family!)


Be honest with yourself. When you walk into a room, are you bringing joy, happiness and inspiration? Or are you bringing anger, negativity and bitterness?


Are you somebody who uplifts, supports and encourages others? Or do you put down other people’s ideas?


Are your conversations based on excitement, inspiration and creativity? Or are they negative, complaining or gossiping?


Do people feel drawn to you and want to spend more time with you? Or are they avoiding rescheduling your catch-ups?


If you realise you may be an energy taker, then that’s okay! Don’t stress. You can take some steps to swap to being an energy giver.


The most important thing to do when you’re wanting to become more of a giver than a taker is to pay attention. Pay attention to the conversations you’re having and the words you’re using.


When you spend the time to truly pay attention, you can realise what things aren’t serving you in life and then you remove or change them.


It’s also important to understand what things give energy and what things take energy. More on this below!


Energy Givers vs. Energy Takers – Things


Along with people, there are also things that give energy and take energy.


By understanding which things do what, you can focus on the things that bring energy to your life and incorporate them into your daily routines and rituals.


Energy Givers

· Sunlight

· Dancing

· Nourishing foods

· Fresh air

· Resting

· Good sleep patterns

· Resting

· Movement

· Music

· Nature

· Hydration

· Goal and intention setting

· Affirmations

· Mediation

· Mindfulness

Energy Takers

· Poor sleep

· Overthinking

· Negative people

· Junk food

· Dehydration

· Lack of sunlight and fresh air

· Cluttered and messy environments

· Working too much

· Not practising self-care


To be honest, I used to an energy taker. I used to be so stuck in my own mind and little world that I would complain about speak negatively quite often. When I started my self-development journey, I witnessed myself change over to being an energy giver. When I started focusing on the things that gave me energy each day, then this happened naturally!


Don’t get me wrong, some days I can be an energy taker. We will all have days where we take instead of give and that’s normal as long as we are giving more often then taking!


With love

Shorina xo

Certified Counsellor & Mental Health Coach