There's lightness and darkness to self-love.
Lightness is the beautiful, soul-filling things like massages, getting our hair done, taking bubble baths, long walks, journaling and catching up with our girlfriends.
Darkness is the incredible soul-nourishing things like saying no, setting boundaries, shadow work, getting therapy, getting outside of your comfort zone and letting go of sh*tty habits and routines.
I love the light self-love. I practise that kind of self-love every single day with so much excitement, joy and rarely skip it. It feels good. It is magic in it's own form. But we aren't practising true self-love unless we also incorporate the dark self-love. The stuff that feels uncomfortable, icky and hard to work through. I make sure I'm practising the dark self-love too. It doesn't feel like magic when I'm doing it, but it is magic in it's own form too.
We need a balance of the darkness and lightness. We need both forms of self-love in our lives.
With love & support,
Shorina | Mindful Soul Collective
Counsellor & Wellbeing Coach