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25 things I wish I knew sooner

Mindfulness, Mind, Body, Soul Wellness & Healing | Counsellor & Mental Health and Wellbeing Coach in Newcastle Australia

This blog post is a little more fun, I’m not going to go into a lot of detail with each dot point but I wanted to share the 25 most important tips I have learnt in my life so far – things that I really wish I knew sooner!

I feel this blog post will be helpful for everybody, but in particular for teenagers. I can only imagine where I would be and how much better off I would be if I knew all of this at the beginning of high school! Let’s get into it!

1. Anybody can experience mental health issues

I was 14 years old when I was first “diagnosed” with depression and anxiety. I didn’t think it was possible for me to struggle with my mental health because I thought it only happened to people who experienced life a lot different to me (who were “worse off” than me). So, when the doctor told me that, it really shook me up.

2. Seeing a counsellor or therapist is okay

You visit your doctor when you have an issue with your physical health to get advice to improve things. Seeing a counsellor or therapist

is the exact same, just for your mental health. I have been seeing my counsellor for more than 7 years now and he is part of the reason I am where I am today.

3. It’s okay to discuss your mental health issues

When I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I thought I was alone. I truly thought there was nobody else around me who felt how I did. Now, I look back and realise that a lot of the people who I have grown with had the same struggles, we just didn’t discuss it. Maybe if we had discussed it more often, we could have all started to feel better a lot sooner.

4. It’s okay to fail

Failing is not the end of the world. Whether you fail school, university, a workplace assessment. No matter what you fail, IT IS OKAY. You can and will be able to come back from it!

5. Surround yourself with positive and uplifting people

You become the most like the people you surround yourself with. Do you truly like who they are? Because if you don’t, there is a huge chance you will become just like them…

6. Do whatever YOU want

Make decisions based on what you want. Of course, listen to opinions and reasoning from other people when appropriate, but you need to follow your gut and do whatever you want to do. Life is too short to do what everybody else wants you to do.

7. You are allowed to say no

I honestly wish I learnt how to say no a longg

gg time ago. Value your own time and priorities and say no when you don’t want to do something. You don’t even need an excuse. You are allowed to say no.

8. You can achieve anything you put your mind too

No matter what you want to do, you can achieve it. You just need to work hard and towards it. Don’t give up.

9. You don’t need somebody to

be happy

I spent years of my life feeling like I needed somebody to spend my time with. I actually have people around me who still feel like they’re incomplete without somebody else. The truth is, you only need to be with yourself to be happy. Once you’re happy within yourself, the rest falls into place.

10. First impressions matter

Always remember to be kind because first impressions matter. You never know who you will be meeting and where.

11. There is always room for growth

Nobody is perfect. Literally nobody. There is always room for personal growth and there is always something new to learn.

12. Don’t make assumptions or judge other people

You will never truly know what somebody else is experiencing or feeling, a lot of the time, the other person wouldn’t be able to explain it properly if they tried. I’m just going to say this again because it is SO important – always be kind.

13. It’s okay to be different

You don’t have to fit into the perfect picture frame of what society has moulded. Do and be whoever you want. Have pink hair and be an artist. D

on’t ever dye your hair and be a lawyer. Honestly, it doesn’t matter, just do what you want and don’t think about it.