You don't find self-love through self-hate.
If you want to embody true self-love, you need to stop the self-hatred. This means you need to let go of nasty comments about yourself, breaking promises to yourself, refusing to accept compliments, nitpicking in the mirror, not prioritising yourself and your health and letting other people treat you poorly.
When you can stop the self-hatred, you can come to a place of neutrality where you can then learn self-love. But you can love yourself while still actively hating yourself (which includes doing things that don't serve you!)
Finding your self-love again (because we're all born with it) is a process. It will take time but I promise it will be the most rewarding thing you ever do.
This is something I work on with every single client because it is so incredibly important... if you'd like to work on this together, jump to the link below and book in to work with me!
With love & support,
Shorina | Mindful Soul Collective
Counsellor & Wellbeing Coach