In this episode, I discuss:
the stage of growth I feel myself in
the things I want to change in my own life
three key things to remember when you're in a stage of growth
Welcome to the Mindful Soul Collective Podcast, a safe space for your healing.
I'm your host Shorina, a counsellor, well-being coach, multi-bus owner and mum.
I'm here to talk all things mind, body and soul.
You can expect conversations on mental health, mindfulness, mindset, healing and whole body wellness.
I've completely redefined my relationship to myself and to my life.
And now it's your turn.
Hello and welcome back to the podcast.
Today's episode is really for anybody who's going through a stage of growth in their
life. And that's because I feel myself going through a stage of growth and I wanted to speak to it because I know that it's probably going to be helpful for somebody else listening as well.
I think this episode is probably going to be a short episode and I'm kind of riffing.
I don't have notes today, I'm just talking from the heart.
So I feel myself in this level of growth or like this stage of growth within all areas
of my life. So I feel it within my businesses, within my friendships, within my relationship with my partner and my family, within my parenting, but most importantly, I really feel this within myself.
So the person that I am, the impact I want to make, the way I show up in the world, I
just really feel like I'm in the middle of this level of growth or this stage of growth
where things are changing.
I'm finding that things that used to bring me joy no longer do, that I'm no longer connecting to people that I once did, I want my businesses to grow in a completely new way that, you know, I hadn't considered before now and I'm wanting to work in a completely different way.
I want to work less and have more time with my kids and I've been working on Sundays
and now I don't want to work on Sundays anymore and just feeling like things are changing for me.
And to be honest, this has been huge.
I've gone through stages of growth before, this is new territory.
It's like my entire life is shifting in new ways and while that's exciting, it's also
As I'm going through all of this, I'm feeling waves of anxiety and rushes of grief of,
you know, the person that I was and the things or people that maybe I'm leaving behind.
I don't know what's going to happen. I'm not sure what changes I'm going to want to make tomorrow. And if I think about it, it's kind of like I'm shedding this layer of who I was or who I have been and I'm finding myself all over again. And I'm okay with that.
I'm really okay with that. I'm excited for what's going to happen, but it's also scary.
I'm at a point where I don't want to spend my time and energy and in a lot of cases,
my money on things that don't serve me anymore, on things that don't support me, that don't fill up my cup, that don't appreciate me, that just don't fit in my life anymore. And I wanted to talk about this today for a few reasons.
And in particular, because I wanted to share three things that I think we all experience
or feel as we go through these big stages of growth like I am now, these are three things
that I'm feeling and experiencing right now at the time of recording this for you.
So the first thing is people around you may not understand, but that's okay.
If you've gone through a big stage of growth like this and how I'm talking, chances are
your friends or family may have been confused. They might have even been judgmental about it. You know, all of a sudden you're interested in new things and quite literally changing from the person that they know and love.
So I wanted to make it very clear that it's okay to grow and go through these stages and
to change as a human being, but the people around you may not understand.
And that's okay. They don't need to understand. You don't even need to understand.
You just need to follow your heart or your soul, your gut, your intuition, whatever it is, anything that's telling you something, telling you that you want change, that you want something different. That's what you need to follow and you need to trust that. So the people around you may not understand, but that's okay. They don't need to understand.
You don't need to understand. You need to just trust and surrender to this stage of growth and let life happen and be there for it.
The second thing that I wanted to share is that it's going to be scary, but it's also
going to be exciting at the same time.
If I'm honest, this is the biggest growth period I've ever experienced. And I have to admit, I've probably said that before. It's like every year I go through some kind of up level that is bigger than I've ever experienced because in the last three years, I've grown so much.
I've changed so much. I've allowed this space for this growth, but this period I'm in right now is definitely exceeding everything else I've ever gone through.
But let me tell you that every single time I've allowed the time, the energy and the
space for this growth, it has been scary as hell. I've felt scared because I don't know what's going to happen. I don't know what's going to change. I don't know who I'm going to be at the end of it. But it's also exciting as hell for all the same reasons because I don't know what's going to happen, because I don't know how I'm going to change in the person I'm going to be at the end of it.
Every single time I've felt scared and excited. So if you are in this big crazy period of growth like this, know that it's normal to be scared, but it's also normal to be excited about what's to come. You can feel two things at once. You can be excited and you can be scared. And that's okay.
And the third and last thing I wanted to share with you today is that you are never going
to regret growing as a person.
When I look back at all the work I've done on myself as an individual, I am amazed.
I have read countless books. I have listened to more podcast episodes than you can imagine. I have watched so many documentaries. I've done so many courses and workshops and so, so, so many individual coaching and counseling sessions.
I have grown so much as a person. I have been through so much as a person. I have spent so much time and so much energy and so much money to help myself grow into
this person that's talking to you today. And I don't regret any of it.
Without those things, I wouldn't be where I am today. And I definitely want to be the person I am today without those things. I want to be sitting here, I want to be talking to you, I want to have this life that I have if I hadn't have grown as a person.
If I hadn't grown as a person, I would still be partying and drinking and doing drugs and
in toxic relationships. I definitely wouldn't be sitting here talking to you. So I would love for you to just take just five seconds to think about where you would be if you hadn't grown as a person. Who would you be today? Where would you be? What would you be doing?
Because I can guarantee you that you have grown as a person at some point through our
life. So what would life be like if you hadn't done that?
I know that today's episode was short, but hopefully sweet.
And like I said, I wanted to talk about this because this is where I am in life. This is what I am experiencing, and I am going through. And I hope I wasn't all over the shop. Like I said, this was with literally three sentences on a piece of paper as my notes today are really riffed for you. But yes, if you are in that stage of growth, just know that it is so exciting and I am here for it, I am here for my stage of growth, I am here for your stage of growth.
Life is really going to be amazing.
So sending you all of my love and all of my support and I will talk to you next week.
With love & support,
Shorina | Mindful Soul Collective
Counsellor & Wellbeing Coach